Shapes of Fear
Fear takes many forms: loss of things, loss of acceptance, and loss of feelings. My focus for this post is the fear of action.
The fear of death follows from the fear of life. A man who lives fully is prepared to die at any time.
― Mark Twain
Fear can be a trap if I let it. Consequently, I fell into this trap after failing Pharmacy School. I didn’t want to put myself out there because I was afraid of failing again. It can prevent me from growing or trying new things. Fear can hold me back from contributing to other people and opportunities. As a result, it could prevent me from a living happy, satisfied, and fulfilled life.
Fear is the opposite of freedom: it is not liberating; it is constrictive.
When trying to figure out what I want to do with my life, I have to ask myself: where do I want to be? And, what am I afraid of? These questions seem easy to answer and I might get something superficial. But they are some of the hardest questions I had to ask myself. It makes me look at what I think is important, what my priorities should be based on what I think is important, and potential obstacles (fears) on my path towards my vision.
In effect, fear of failure creates a manufactured fear of starting or completing a task. What can hold me back are these manufactured fears that keep me from doing what I want to do or not do.
This sounds like something we know is true but it’s hard to face when looking at fear: fear is a choice. When faced with a decision and knowing my personal vision and my goals, the fear goes away. I am more confident when I have a roadmap for how I want my life to be.
Learn from my mistakes. Now, not tomorrow is the time to figure out what you want from your life. Because it’s up to you, no one can figure this out but you. Once you have an idea of what direction you want to go, it’ll be time to stop being afraid of whatever is preventing you from reaching your goals. Start with the small goals, start with the excess things in your life. See some improvement, even if it’s small. In the end, you’re the master of your fear.