making the right goals depends on your personal vision

How to Make the Right Goals

I’ve been spending a lot of time in the past few weeks thinking about goals.  Thinking about how goals help me work on my personal vision.

Sometimes I think about this so often that it feels like that setting goals seems more like a hobby. I am a supporter of setting goals yet I think goals are misused. The focus on goals, I think, can get in the way of seeing the bigger picture.

I want to expand on the post I wrote around creating a personal vision.

In that post I focused on why a personal vision is important so now I want to focus on how the right goals are important to that vision.

First, I want to discuss the differences between goals and vision.

Goals

Goals are the bite size and specific actions that have a beginning and end.  They are actions that can be measured and once you’re done with that goal, it goes away and you build on it.

For example, a goal can be described as wanting to lose 1 pound per week while a vision would be to lead a healthy lifestyle.

We can consider goals as a tool that tells us what we need to achieve a planned outcome.  Sounds simple right?

Visions

Create a personal vision to control your goals

A vision is the high level perspective of how you want your life to be, what kind of person you want to be and a general direction for your life.

 

Visions are open ideas, they don’t have a beginning or end, they can’t be measured like goals and are a lot harder to conceptualize.  It takes a lot of thought and consideration to think about how you want your life to be and it always changes depending on how you grow as a person.

Your vision can be long or short, detailed or general. A personal vision could be “I want to be more well read”.  A goal for this vision is to read a set number of books per month or per year.

When you start to develop an idea of your own vision, you can make it as long or short as you think necessary, there’s no wrong way to do this.  It can be a short statement for physical health or a detail roadmap for your life.  When you write it, you have to be realistic and honest with yourself and your dedication to the tasks required to get there.

For me, there are three aspects for my vision: personal, social, and professional.  With these three aspects, I can work on creating and tracking goals.

Goals and Visions Working Together

Working and Not Getting Anywhere

working and not getting anywhere

Do you every feel like you’re working on what you want to do but you feel like you’re not getting anywhere with it?  I was like this when I kept making goals but didn’t have a higher reason for these goals, this is when I realized I didn’t have a vision for where I want to be.

For this reason, you’ll need to have both a personal vision and goals.  These two concepts are complementary to each other.  Having one without the other just doesn’t work and is unproductive.

Creating a vision of what you want your life to look like can help direct when creating goals, my experience is now touse goals as a tool not as an ends. Goals are an excellent way for directing you on what to do but they won’t tell you why you’re doing it these actions.

A goal of mine was to get into Pharmacy School so I worked hard, achieved a 3.8 GPA and when I received the acceptance letters it was great but there was something missing, something empty about the moment.  I didn’t have a personal vision to support the goal.

While I was in Pharmacy School I started to think about the reasons why I wanted to be in that program and I could only come up with one or two employment related reasons.  There was no personal passion behind the decision, it was purely economic.

Working and Not Enjoying Your Success

Looking back at the experience of failing out of Pharmacy School, it was a miserable experience but it only hurt my esteem from an economic perspective and not a personal one.  I didn’t have a significant reason for wanting to be in that program, I went into it because it seemed like the next logical step in my educational and professional progress.

Again, having goals is a great way for tracking progress because they provide feedback on your actions but they can’t and won’t provide meaning in themselves if you don’t have a personal vision supporting them.

Here’s an example for why gym memberships as a New Year’s resolution don’t work.  I avoid going to the gym in January and February because people crowd the gym trying to work out.  March comes and the crowd thins, then April it gets thinner.  Why?

People join and work out for a vague idea of getting in shape or be healthier but these actions are unsupported with a vision.  Why do you wa

nt to work out? Is it to compete in a marathon? To be healthier for your family so you don’t get tired from activities? These can be goals for a vision of a healthier lifestyle.

The same can be applied for wanting to start a business, a blog, or writing a book.  These are great goals to have but what’s the point behind them? That’s the point of a personal vision.

If you can connect your goals to your vision, next time you achieve a goal you could find the experience both satisfying and excited about the next goal.

Setting Too Many Goals

Another reason why I felt like I wasn’t getting anywhere is because I was setting too many goals.  This was becoming a distraction because I was trying to change too many things at once.

Instead, focusing on a couple of goals, and smaller goals in the beginning, can help you see progress and keep motivated to build on the goals.

Unrealistic goal setting is something I am sometimes guilty of doing.  This will get in the way and can be demoralizing.  So focus on smaller, realistic goals and build up from there.

Vision Adaptability

One of my faults is that I can become too goal orientated and lose focus of why I’m working towards a goal.  It can feel like I’m trying to achieve the goal for the sake of achieving the goal and as I’ve written above, that’s a path to disappointment.

This can get in the way of short-term success and long-term motivation to keep working on your personal vision.

Goals have a starting point, they are based on your experience or lack of experience of something and your knowledge at the time.  The more you working on your goals the more you grow. If you don’t reevaluate your personal vision with your goals then you’ll continue on the same path without knowing it’s the wrong path.

This is what happened to me and Pharmacy School, if I would have done a deeper self-evaluation instead of pushing through my goals, then I could have considered a Ph.D. program instead.

A personal vision is not rigid as goals, it allows for adaptability.  It gives us an path towards an overall life we want to have and it allows flexibility for us to grow into that personal vision or change it.

One of the reasons why people go into Pharmacy is because they want to help others in the community.  Applying rigid goals towards this end would have us sitting through hours of chemistry and pharmacology.  But there are other ways of helping people, we could volunteer in the community, become a teacher, or a nurse.  Having a personal vision can help us sort through what we want and how we get there.

The Stress of Failing to Achieve Goals and Vision Adaptability

taking on too many goals leading to stress

We get stressed and it’s easy to understand why. We focus on goals as the ends of a journey and not a tool.  When we have a goal-driven mentality, we can cause unnecessary stress when we don’t achieve the goal.  It’s not a great feeling when I don’t achieve my goal. I don’t see it as the tragedy it once was, I don’t feel the disappointment as sharply.

Looking back, Pharmacy School was a goal of mine but failing out of the program didn’t significantly change my life like I thought it would. I was depressed for a while, angry at myself and disappointed.

Then I realized the trajectory of my life was unaltered by this event.

As I mentioned before, goals are useful tools. But when we become driven by them for themselves and not the bigger picture, it could result in stress, anger, and other demotivating actions.

Focusing on a vision can help reduce demotivating and unproductive thoughts and actions. It gives us an overarching long-term ideal to achieve.

Tracking progress

When being goal-focused, we tend to track progress on an item by item basis without seeing how it effects the greater vision.  Instead, I recommend that we monitor our goal progress while keeping in mind the personal vision associated with that goal.  This way we can see measurable progress towards completing goals.  This decreases the feeling of being overwhelmed by the pressure of completing goals for the sake of completing them.

When I track goals and don’t see progress, I tend to feel unmotivated.  I have to think that motivation comes though persistence and dedication to the task.  It’s important to not have blind dedication but mindful dedication. Taking a mindful dedication to goals, making this a habit will reinforce motivation. This is how we grow from discipline and sticking to our personal vision.

Tracking progress can also help you to get started on your personal vision and goals.  Just starting an action, even if small is a valuable step towards where you want to be. Doing something, anything can lead to something greater.

The Right Goals

We may ask ourselves, what are the right goals? The right goals are the goals that align our actions and our personal vision. It sounds easier than it is.  It’ll take a lot of introspection to figure out your personal vision. Then it’ll take more work to figure out goals to support that vision.  Lastly, it’ll take discipline to follow though with your goals.

Take time to evaluate your goals to see if they are really helpful on your path towards your personal vision. If they aren’t working, change them.  If you’re failing in them, find out why and change it, learn from it.

Final Thoughts

So here’s a challenge for 2018 while this year is still fresh. Make small sensible goals but integrate them based on how you want your life to be.  Track your progress and note your achievements and find why you failed.  Don’t get stuck on the failure, use it as a learning experience.  Hopefully it will lead to decreased stress and disappointment.

Anti-procrastination sign

Avoiding the “Someday” Trap

Procrastination Leading to Regret

Facing a new year reminds me of all the things I want to do someday and all the things I wanted to do but haven’t done.

The procrastination sets in; someday never seems to be today.

Someday May Never Come

For me, the concept of someday becoming a daydreaming and dangerous word.  We live our lives thinking there’s always more time.

Someday assumes a distant future with possibilities, this can be a distraction from what’s happening here and now.  Someday makes me lose focus on my goals as I work towards my personal vision.

Thinking about things I haven't done
Waiting for Someday

Don’t Think, Just Do

So in this new year, I want to remove the word someday and take those somedays and incorporate them into my personal vision. To make measurable goals out of them and make them happen.

Final Thoughts

Why wait for a future that is not guaranteed?  I don’t want to have a collection of somedays laying around as a form of regret.

To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all.
― Oscar Wilde

Row of doors facing the viewer

How to Redefine Better – Thoughts on Perspective

Every day is a new day. It is better to be lucky. But I would rather be exact. Then when luck comes you are ready.
― Ernest HemingwayThe Old Man and the Sea

Better is Perspective

I think an important aspect of knowing what “better” means comes down to a matter of perspective.  When I was younger (compared to when I was older? – never mind), I thought it was the more expensive or bigger or faster object, regardless of what I really needed.

I purchased a Mustang and thought it was better because it was new, it was fast, it was better than my previous car, until winter came.  Then I learned that better was situational and a Mustang would be worthless (and dangerous) in the snow.

As I grow older, my perspective on this changes.  Today, I think “better” is what’s most cost-effective for the quality.  It doesn’t have to be the best of the best but it as to be right for the purpose intended.

I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better.
― Maya Angelou

Better is Individual

“Better” is an individual preference for our needs.  We don’t all have the same requirements for lives or for our goals.  Yet, developing our own vision and goals will tell us what is “better”.

A personal example would be my choice to get into Pharmacy School.  My heart really wasn’t into Pharmacy but it could have provided the credentials that could get me into better employment opportunities.

After the first semester I knew it wasn’t right for me.  I wasn’t doing well in 1 class and my motivation was only not to fail. For me, Pharmacy School wasn’t “better”.

Perspective is can change over time
Better is a matter of perspective

Final Thoughts

This is a point I’ve repeated in this post and others, we’ll know what’s better when we know where we want to go in life.  It doesn’t have to be some big and elaborate plan to be the next big thing. The little things add up.

Having a personal vision, something specific to you is what matters.  After that, things will slowly fall into place.  This is what’s going to take you where you want to go because we can make goals around this vision.

If we want to look for “better”, we need to look inward first.

 

Frustration at work

How to Overcome Frustration in the Face of Failure

When figuring out what to do after failing Pharmacy School, I became frustrated with myself.  Out of this frustration came disorganization and inaction.  So I developed a plan to address frustration so I can keep myself dedicated to enacting my personal vision.

Facing Frustration

Frustration happens to us all. I describe it as annoying, demoralizing, and mentally exhausting.  A great combination for going nowhere.

Frustration, when not properly managed, can be the enemy of your time and ultimately, your personal vision.  Frustration can end up taking valuable time when it becomes a distraction and time is a commodity, once lost, can never be regained.

Sometimes I find myself going in circles then I just feel like giving up. Time passes and I’m stuck. This causes a chain reaction to slowing my journey as I work on my goals.

An important strategy I’m starting to use so to turn that negative frustration into a positive.  It takes time and practice but frustration can be used as a key to how we understand or misunderstand of an idea or action.

When I get frustrated, I take a minute to think about what I’m frustrated about. Then I try to think of this challenge from a different angle or I reach out to others for their perspectives.

Changing your perspective can change how you see a problem
Seeing a different perspective

Challenging Frustration

Return to the Here and Now

I feel as if I were a piece in a game of chess, when my opponent says of it: That piece cannot be moved.
― Søren Kierkegaard

When I get frustrated, I feel as if my thoughts go to a future where I’m stuck in the same situation, with the same task and nothing gets done or accomplished. Sometimes my thoughts go to a place to think about what would happen if I just gave up or didn’t finish the task.  Or, I start thinking about past failures and it decreases my motivation and creates doubt in myself.

When I find myself going down this mindless path of decreasing or zero productivity, I have to snap out of it.  This is the time when I have to remind myself to get back to the here and now.

I take a moment to clear my mind, sometimes I leave the work area to get a new perspective on things.  Or, I’ll look out the window and try to clear my mind. I find going for a short walk helps me clear my mind and resets my thoughts.

I find that I have to have patience in myself and the process for getting things done, to break the cycle of frustration.  There is no quick way to build patience, it comes over time as it builds on itself.  Start with a little patience and keep it going and eventually you’ll have more than when you started.

Review what was accomplished

When I get back to my work area I briefly go review what I’ve accomplished up to the stopping point.

It helps me keep motivated by seeing there is progress. Sometimes it helps to see the problem from this perspective because maybe something happened earlier that could be changed to cover come the issue.

Getting back to the challenge

Now that I’m refreshed and ready to go, I have to get back to the challenge at hand. I think about small incremental steps that I can take to advance the process.  I think about resources available or past event that may be similar enough to provide guidance on what to do next.

This helps reduce frustration. I try to keep in mind that there are multiple paths to a destination.

Keeping a positive attitude

I have the challenge back in front of me; I’m refreshed and found resources to guide me forward now is the time to keep a positive attitude.

Keeping positive is found to reduce stress and increase positive health outcomes.  What good can come from being negative? Nothing. It can only result in mental fatigue and stress, and you’re back where you started and the only thing you’ve done is lost time.

Keeping a positive mental outlook is important to move forward in anything you do.

Final Thoughts

Frustration can be both demoralizing and demotivating if you let it.

A strategy I use is to take a step back, take stock of achievements so far, try to think of alternatives (reaching out to others when needed), and keep a positive mental outlook. This helps me keep focused and dedicated to my goals and personal vision.

Let’s see what you can do to fight frustration using these simple tools.

Laughter and tears are both responses to frustration and exhaustion. I myself prefer to laugh, since there is less cleaning do to do afterward.
― Kurt Vonnegut Jr.

 

Motivation

How to Get Motivated in the Face of Failure

Without ambition one starts nothing. Without work one finishes nothing. The prize will not be sent to you. You have to win it.
― Ralph Waldo Emerson

A Lag in Motivation

It’s hard to keep motivated in the face of failure.  On some days I wake up ready to go and other days I don’t feel like doing anything. Sometimes I have self-doubt and that creates a lag on my motivation.

Easy Motivation Strategies

In my many, many, many decades of life, I’ve used different strategies to get myself back into action.  Now, these strategies aren’t difficult but they require persistence and dedication.  Here’s a list of strategies that might be helpful.

The only way of discovering the limits of the possible is to venture a little way past them into the impossible.
― Arthur C. Clarke

Get Started

I’m going to borrow the Nike slogan but it’s true, you just have to do it.  Getting started is most of the battle, once you get started you can use your momentum to keep going.  I start with being consistent, having a daily routine and adding to the routine in small increments.

After a while, it gets easier to do things, like going to the gym, because I make it a routine and started with an easy workout.  The motivation is carried by the habit.

Start Small

Procrastination, my old friend. Such a comfortable friend. Until the deadline comes and there’s no more time.  I’ve been guilty of procrastination, it happened in Pharmacy School as well.

One way to battle procrastination is to start small.  Breaking things down to smaller parts is a good way of learning and project management.  It also helps when tracking progress.

If small steps doesn’t work, I make the steps smaller.  I might have over estimated the sizes and need to readjust. The important thing for me is that I keep moving forward, even if it’s slow, patience is important.

Put Down the Smartphone

Distraction is a motivation killer.  Nothing passes the time like looking into the warm glow of a smartphone. Breaking smartphone use can help increase motivation by removing an unproductive distraction.  Turning off notifications and putting the smartphone on silent is a good way to reduce this distraction.

Smartphones aren’t the only distraction. When you have easily accessible distractions all around you then it becomes hard to focus. One thing I would do is close the office door, of if not in an office find a conference room to sit and concentrate.

Get Feedback

There are two ways I get feedback: keep a log or personal feedback.  Keeping a log or journal to track your progress is a great way to keep motivation.  I use workout apps to track my progress and it keeps me going because I see how i’m doing over time.

Using a journal helps me track my progress with goals in support of my vision. This isn’t an every day journal though it can be.  It can be used two or three times a week to track my progress and it’s nice to look back and see progress.

I also keep personal accountability through the people in my life.  I say what I want to do and I’m kept on track. It helps keep you honest with yourself when someone reminds you of things you want to do.

When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.
― Viktor E. Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning

Removing the Negative

I try to be positive but one thing I try to do is keep positive people around me.  Negative people are an emotional drain.  Some people are negative and always look at the dark or apathetic side of things. It’s hard to be motivated when dealing with negativity so I stay away from it.

Keeping Positive

Now that I try to get negative influences away, I have to let in the positive influences.  I’m not into motivational books but I do like TED talk podcasts that talk about overcoming adversity or people creating new challenges for themselves.  This always creates a positive feeling for me and increases my motivation.

I also try to find something positive in a negative situation. What can I learn from the event? What opportunities are there from this event?

When I failed out of Pharmacy School, I was really hard on myself.  It was bad. One thing I’ve learned from that is that you have to be kind to yourself when you fail.

It’s easy to fall into the cycle of beating yourself when you fail. How does this help? It doesn’t. It only takes up useful time and energy and kills motivation.  I have to use failure as a fuel for my motivation.

Remember the Why

In the Get Feedback section above I mentioned keeping a journal.  This is a great location to keep notes on why I’m doing things and why I have these goals. It’s a great reminder to myself to look back when I’m feeling unmotivated and don’t have the energy to keep going.

Sometimes it’s easy to lose sight of why you’re doing something but this can help as a reminder.  Another way to to keep sticky notes, have them at your desk or on a monitor as a daily reminder.

Have Gratitude

In the holiday season we are reminded to be grateful for what we have.  Coming out of the holiday season shouldn’t be different.  When I’m feeling unmotivated or start to think negatively, I think about the things I’m grateful for. This helps put things into a postive perspective and keeps motivation from declining.

Monotony is a Motivation Killer

In the Get Started section above, I talk about getting into a routine.  This doesn’t mean living on autopilot.  Mixing things up by adding or taking away from a routine can help maintain motivation.  For example, if a daily routine involves something like making sandwiches or shaving in the morning, add music or a podcast.

Little changes like this makes a difference when you add tasks to your routine.  Listening to podcasts related to goals is even a better way to keep motivation.

Clean Your Work Space / Living Area

Working in squalor is a motivation killer.  Having to walk into a cluttered work area or cluttered living area is one way to kill motivation. It take only a few minutes a day to keep an area uncluttered and it’s worth it.  Plus it decreases the chances of distraction.  Start small, clean the desk area or a small room and keep it clean. Then work outward from there.

Pick Your Head Up

Taking a short break once in a while isn’t a bad thing. It’ll keep your mind fresh and your work productive. This means you’ll have motivation to keep going.

I take a 2 minute “meditation” break. When my mind gets tired or I feel overloaded, looking outside for 2 minutes lets me take the opportunity to rest my mind.  All I do is look at nature or the sky and let my mind relax. This helps me refresh my motivation to keep going.

Life is a marathon not a sprint.

Final Thoughts

There are many ways of keeping motivated, you have to find the right combination of methods.  Also, the combinations may be different for different goals.  Give yourself some credit for the goals accomplished, have a realistic time frame for doing things, and track your progress and you’re on the right path for keeping motivated.

Potential for Passion

Passion – Why Following it is Bad Advice

Following Your Passion

That seems to be great advice until you think about it.  What if I don’t have a passion? What if my passion is basketball and I’m horrible.  No matter how much training, it’ll never happen.  This happens more often than not.  I’ve been searching for my passion after failing out of Pharmacy School.  I’m not sure what it is yet but I know what it’s not.

What is Passion?

How do we know if we have a passion for something? Is it a sense of excitement when performing an action? Is it a sense for an idea of something?  I think excitement for an action or idea is short lived and empty.  The true passion is with persistent and consistent work.

I think true passion come after the action.  It is when we’re dedicated to an action or idea.  The hours or work involved to seeing this action or idea realized is the passion.

What does it Mean for Me?

It’s what keeps us going towards that goal when you feel like giving up. It keeps us motivated and inspired. Yet, I may fail and gain little from following this.  If you’re lucky, and your passion is basketball and you’re good at the sport then you might have a shot.

People say to follow your passion, but I think we should follow what we’re good at doing.  What happens when you try to follow is as a career? You get a long resume with a lot of different jobs as you’re trying to figure it out.  Time goes quickly and we can never get it back.

If you’re one of the lucky ones that knows your passion, keep it as a hobby.  If you’re like the rest of us, you have that focus and dedication inside you already; use it towards what you’re good at doing.

Instead, cultivate a mindset of purpose. Find what you’re good at doing, find what you like doing, see if there is a need for your skill, and see if you can get paid for it.  When you can answer these questions, you’ll find a direction for your vision.

Steve Jobs is a popular example of this.  His passion wasn’t computers, it was eastern philosophy and mysticism.  Computers was just something to make money.  Yet, he was good at finding talent to execute his plans.  If he followed his passion, he may have ended up owning and operating yoga studios.

Final Thoughts

Here’s the hard truth, there is no special passion waiting for us.

It has to be created and maintained, like a garden, if you want true results.  The good news is that we have the opportunity to create and maintain a passion starting now.

Pharmacy

How to Deal with Failure: Life After Failing Pharmacy School

All of old. Nothing else ever. Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try again. Fail again. Fail better.
― Samuel Beckett, Worstward Ho

Right but for the Wrong Reasons

Looking at the envelope addressed from the School of Pharmacy, I knew in that moment my life would never be the same.  I was right but for the wrong reasons.  Thing’s in my life aren’t fundamentally different, but my perspective on things are different, in a good way.

Establishing New Goals

Exploring how I use my time and what actions should get my time, I’m working on getting my life organized again. I am also looking at things I think I should have learned but haven’t, reading the classics to astrophysics.

I am trying to be more open to new and different ideas while trying to figure out new goals.  Before I can have new goals, I need to have a vision of where I want to go.  Creating a vision statement is another topic but it’s something I need to work on before I can create goals to achieve that vision.

For now, I see a few options; one option is to go back to school.  A huge red flag on any application is failing Pharmacy School.  It shows an institution took a chance on you and it didn’t work out, so what’s to prevent that from happening again?

I think taking on a masters program part-time may ease my transition back to this lifestyle.  This could also help me build academic credibility.  I reached out to a few schools regarding their masters programs and they recommended applying as a part-time student to build an academic foundation for future work.  One you can show you can do the work, going full-time or working towards completing the MS or applying for a Ph.D. is a real possibility.

I’ve been thinking about getting a mentor, someone to help me refine my vision (if I can remember what that was).  Having someone that can provide unbiased advice based on their personal and professional experience is a valuable resource.  My issue right now is, I don’t know what I want to do.  Sometimes having too many options can show you down.

Outlet for Growth

Outside of working on my goals, or actually creating new goals, I created this site.  This site is designed as an outlet for helping me explore new ideas, express and share frustration and disappointment.  You can see that failing professional school isn’t the end.

Final Thoughts

It’s easy to see how people not involved in professional school don’t understand the impact of failing.  There’s a lot of mental and emotional investment just getting into the school (applications, interviews, school selection, moving, paying). That investment only grows once you’re there.  The program becomes an intense lifestyle, failing that feels like failing yourself, others, it really can be a crushing experience

 

Fear Scrabble Blocks

Thoughts on Fear in the Face of Failure

Shapes of Fear

Fear takes many forms: loss of things, loss of acceptance, and loss of feelings.  My focus for this post is the fear of action.

The fear of death follows from the fear of life. A man who lives fully is prepared to die at any time.
― Mark Twain

Fear can be a trap if I let it. Consequently, I fell into this trap after failing Pharmacy School.  I didn’t want to put myself out there because I was afraid of failing again. It can prevent me from growing or trying new things.  Fear can hold me back from contributing to other people and opportunities. As a result, it could prevent me from a living happy, satisfied, and fulfilled life.

Fear is the opposite of freedom: it is not liberating; it is constrictive.

Overcoming Fear

When trying to figure out what I want to do with my life, I have to ask myself: where do I want to be? And, what am I afraid of? These questions seem easy to answer and I might get something superficial. But they are some of the hardest questions I had to ask myself. It makes me look at what I think is important, what my priorities should be based on what I think is important, and potential obstacles (fears) on my path towards my vision.

In effect, fear of failure creates a manufactured fear of starting or completing a task. What can hold me back are these manufactured fears that keep me from doing what I want to do or not do.

This sounds like something we know is true but it’s hard to face when looking at fear: fear is a choice. When faced with a decision and knowing my personal vision and my goals, the fear goes away. I am more confident when I have a roadmap for how I want my life to be.

Final Thoughts

Learn from my mistakes. Now, not tomorrow is the time to figure out what you want from your life. Because it’s up to you, no one can figure this out but you. Once you have an idea of what direction you want to go, it’ll be time to stop being afraid of whatever is preventing you from reaching your goals. Start with the small goals, start with the excess things in your life. See some improvement, even if it’s small. In the end, you’re the master of your fear.

It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll,
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.
― William Ernest Henley, Echoes of Life and Death

 

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